Re: your last response... I think it's fantastic you two are raising her... it must be hard dealing with other people's prejudices but you're obviously doing a good job, because she seems like a spunky little thing. I'm so impressed!

it's honestly the scariest thing in the entire universe.

all we can do is our best. and try to notice when we're not, and fix it as soon as we can. an awful lot of hindsight and sleepless nights, and all the planning ahead in the world can't get you ready for some situations.
she's a strong little kid... sometimes too strong, she feels like she can't always show when things are bothering her. so that's what we're up against right now.

she has her "Aunties", two of our closest friends, for 'girl stuff' and THANK DOG FOR THAT. they do give us some sense of the things she asks them but they also respect her privacy as much as possible and don't spill everything unless they think there's something we need to address. all things in balance...

Have at it.