seems a bit of a harsh way to look at it when there are people who want to and make a mistake or get found. Have you ever done the cry for help thing?

It's obviously not a 100% black and white thing, as you point out. I'm just speaking from what I've seen and experienced. Someone who's determined to do it will find a way, even if it takes a few tries, until they end up either succeeding or institutionalized. I've seen both.

Have I? Not sure I know you well enough to get into that, since you've stayed anon so far.

Have at it.