How is your hand/finger doing?

Got most of the function back, still working on the therapy to stretch the scar tissue and regain some fine motor stuff.

Still type funny sometimes when it's having a bad day :p

So the marathon ficwriting sessions end up with a lot of typos by the end of it. Bah...

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song lyrics don't really answer that question very well...

Sometimes that's my way of saying, listen to the song because it answers better than I could in words.

There's very few people who're worthy of the time and energy it takes to hate someone. Same as love. But the opposite of love isn't hatred, it's rage. There's a difference, a big one. Love and hate are the same side of one coin. They both require passion and drive and commitment... and if someone out there thinks I hate them, odds are they're flattering themselves.

Hate's safer than love. You're sort of asking me if I drive as fast on a motorcycle as I do in my car, with that question...

....Faster, actually.


I do speak in metaphor quite a bit and I will not explain it, and I will not apologize for it.

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What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Everything I'm not. Kind of why I avoid them.

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You're not very talkative, are you?

It depends on the topic, here. Refer down a few questions.. sometimes I end up writing War and Peace, sometimes just a sentence or two.

In person? Same deal, and whether or not I like you.

On IM? Again.. topic, whether I'm up to my arse in tabs and convos and what's going on RL around me.

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Do you have a favorite piece of clothing?

You don't often catch me -not- in a band t-shirt of some flavor, usually AFI. Picking just one is hard. Maybe my Hisss! Zu Boutique shirt...

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You know it's hard to picture you as shy, right?

In specific situations it happens, it's hellish.

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Your new picture is hellishly sexy and makes you look a little like Jack Sparrow. Please apologise to your hubby for me if I accidentally rape you a bit ;)

I was kinda afraid of the Jack thing when I started the dreads back in '07 or whenever it was, but ah well, I wanted em, I made em.

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Darn it, flavor of...food?

Savory, by far, though turning celiac in my 20s completely fucked my attitude towards food because so many of the things I liked were suddenly and forever offlimits. Yes there are GF alternatives but IDGAF what anyone says, they are NOT THE SAME AND THEY ARE NOT AS GOOD.

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What's your favorite flavor?

well.. of what?

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Do you see yourself in other people?

I hope to fuck not, though I recognize similar traits in some.

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Do you love as deeply as you hate?

Love your hate. Your faith lost. You are now one of us.

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Who is/was the unrequited love for?

Was.. like, 1988-1992-era was... friend of mine, very straight, though he was quite kind and let me down as easily as he could at the time.

Was strange though, I think he almost reconsidered a few years later when we met up again by chance and went for a drive to hang out and talk... Brass in Pocket came on his car radio and he started singing it to me all goofy-like, the way we were in highschool... Guess I'll never know, since I was WAY too shy to even think of broaching it again. He'd said no and I had to respect that. Was he telling me otherwise by doing that? I'll never know.

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What is your opinion on life after death? Does it exist? How does it work?

The energy's gotta go somewhere. What it carries with it and where it goes... never know.

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What would you do if someone had a crush on you? How would you handle it?

Um.. is it bad if I say "Depends on who"? xD

Aaaaaanyway... for 99.9% of the population... first I'd be extremely confused as to the hell WHY, and then get incredibly shy and flattered, and then try to figure a way to be as kind about it as possible and keep it from going all awkward.

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Tell me your most powerful memory from your school time

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5th grade... Having a pack of kids wait for me after school and attack me so badly I damn near ended up in the hospital. I could scrap with the best of them but I couldn't fight that many people who're mostly bigger than I am. For no other reason than being myself, and being smarter than them besides. I remember asking them why. "Because you were born..." That's never left. I ended up having to transfer schools after this. The bullying had always been bad, but this... They never did a damn thing about it. If I'd had access to firearms, I could well have been the 1985 Columbine.

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How many times have you been in love?

Well... If you allow for unrequited, three.. if actual relationships, two.

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What is the first thing you notice about someone?

Energy.

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What would you do if your best friend (of either sex) told you they were in love with you?

Well, when that happened.. I ended up marrying him xD

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What is the first three things you think people notice about you?

1) The crutches or wheelchair 2) Hair 3) Height (or lack thereof, if I'm standing)

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Workplace bathroom? Your workplace or theirs?

We worked at the same place, actually, though it wasn't a co-worker fling; we'd already been dating and I'd gotten him the job.

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Which would you choose, true love with a guarantee of a heart break or have never loved before?

All true love has heartbreak.

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Has your life ever been changed by an apparently random occurrence?

Constantly.

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You see three teenagers making fun of a mentally handicapped man in the street. What would you do?

Having been in similar situations, it somewhat depends on the opinion and reaction of the targeted man, his level of function and awareness as well as his agitation level.
If appropriate for me to do so, step in -- if not, call the cops and stay around until they arrive.

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You're having dinner with people you respect and admire. They all criticise a close friend of yours (not knowing he/she is a friend). The criticism is unjustified. What would you do.

Depends on the nature of the criticism/gossip. How I might gently inquire as to why they came to these conclusions and/or refute them would entirely hinge on what they were focusing on and how much knowledge of that i had regarding said friend. Odds are, I would not let it lie, but neither am I going to tip the table and storm out in some fit of righteousness.

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When and how was the last time you told someone HONESTLY how you felt?

I don't lie to people about it in the first place.

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How far would you go with someone that you just met?

Not very. Takes a lot of trust.

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Have you ever been extremely "intimate" with someone in a public place?

Workplace bathroom? Out in the woods? Neither had a real high possibility of being actively SEEN, but still public...

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Favorite eye and hair colors on other people?

Dark. For both.

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Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying?

...you're asking an EMT this?

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You find that your best friend has stolen money to pay for medical treatment for a seriously ill relative. What would you do?

Depends on who/what it was stolen from.

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How do you feel about the climate change process? Do you believe in global warming? Do you think enough is being done to help the environment?

Not nearly enough is being done on all levels of environmental safety and protection. It's terrifying.

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Which subject areas do you feel is in the most need of greater emphasis in public schools?

Actual life skills. Stuff you need to get by once you leave the house and have to figure out dorm or apartment living, hold a job, balance your checkbook, deal with other human beings in the workplace and socially.

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What is the most important thing you learned as a kid?

Other humans can and will do despicable things to you given the opportunity. Defend yourself or become a victim.

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A man has information that could prevent an imminent terrorist attack. Under normal interrogation he refuses to talk. Is torture an option?

COULD, or WILL? Big difference there. I can't necessarily subvert the Geneva Convention for a maybe, but some things are passable under dire circumstance. I know what I'd do if it were my family at risk...

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Is intoxication ever an acceptable excuse for a stupid act?

No.

I'm REALLY the wrong guy to look for any kind of leniency from on this. Since that's me they're working on there, thanks to a drunken cunt who had no business driving at 5x the legal BAC.

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Is there any genre of music that you completely refuse to listen to?

Nah. I'll give anything a listen ONCE. Maybe not ever again after that though.

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You're in a cabin and it is freezing cold. If you don't start a fire soon, you will surely die. You only have two flammable items for kindling. Which do you use to get the fire going: your country's flag or the only existing copy of an important book?

Both, if I have to. Though this is flawed; if I'm in a cabin and I have some way of starting a fire, I have ways of finding something else to use that'll burn better than either of those...

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When does human life begin, in your opinion?

Viability outside the womb, for some definitions thereof. For certain conditions and birth defects, there IS no viability. Anencephaly, for example. If no matter how long you allow gestation to continue, the fetus will not survive past birth without life support and can never improve... the answer is never. There is no life there to begin.

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Imagine that someone you care about is suffering horribly as a result of a terminal illness. If it were their wish, would you consider helping them to end their life prematurely?

In a heartbeat. And go to prison for it if I had to.

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Imagine you are given $1,000,000 and told you must give it to ONE, and ONLY ONE, cause, which would you donate it to? Would it be a political cause or would it be a activism sort of thing?

I'd give it to something which could use the cash more immediately than the juggernaut "causes" that swallow anything less than hundreds of millions with bureaucracy. Something small and grassroots, or maybe establish a GBLTQ scholarship or something.

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Does a hug make you feel better when you're sad?

No. Not always. Sometimes it's better not to touch me at all. Function of the PTSD, I'm told.

When I was a kid and got like that, my mom would get within about 3 feet of me, no closer, and make "petting" motions in the air to inform me I was being a porcupine again and she was smoothing down the spines. No words, and she knew not to touch me. Sometimes it even worked.

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how different is gay sex in fanfiction vs gay sex in real life?

Key point #1: There's quite a large percentage of gay male couples who DON'T partake of anal intercourse; some just don't find it enjoyable for any multitude of reasons, amongst which is the certain lack of spontaneity.. many just don't see the need, there's so much more to do with each other that doesn't involve quite so much potential pain or risk. Some are actively AGAINST the practice at all. Quite a few men just find it too uncomfortable to continue with it once they've tried it.

Aaaaand yet... very few of these other avenues are found in slash. Always TEH BUTTSECKS. Yeah, it has it's place and it's cool to read a story that does it well, but it's almost NEVER written the way it often actually happens.

When's the last time you read a fic where the guy went and gave himself an enema ("prepping") before sex (and it wasn't a kinkfic dealing with that specifically)? Right. Yeah, this is how you avoid getting (much) you-know-what on your cock. And no, I have no need of seeing that particular aspect of it ending up in the fic either; I'd really rather not, but it's a fact of the activity. Santorum happens.

Some positions are less likely to cause this to happen as well, and that's almost never addressed either. Personally I truly dislike any scat mention in fic; Not My Kink (tm). I'm certainly not advocating for more of such; just noting that it's a reality that most dislike and thus go to quite some lengths to avoid.

I know I don't have to go into The Lube Rant yet again, you guys have heard that from me enough.

Even so, even with the slickest lube cash can buy, rough anal sex has SUCH a risk of causing damage one way or another. All it takes is one ill-advised encounter of letting someone pound the hell out of you, and you are out of action (derp) for what can be weeks or even months. There is NOTHING sexy or fun about an internal fissure. Go look it up. And yet there's fic after fic after fic of multiple rounds of banging away on each other.. yeahh, no.

Again, the lack of spontaneity matter comes up in rimming... Go wash your ass first, dammit! Yes, there's always someone's kink to consider, but for the most part? Eeeyyuugghhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Yes, fresh sweat can be nice. Yes, even in the crotch. But around back? Not so much.

A lot of guys take a bit of extra care to keep as clean as possible in general if this is an active part of their sex life (hello, baby wipes...), but still.. much like the Gentleman's Wash, there's going to be that "back in a moment" point in time.

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<b>Fic isn't meant to be reality.</b> These aren't criticisms or denunciations of the many excellent stories out there which I've enjoyed reading. This is just answering the question inasmuch as my own experience allows. As always, I speak for myself, YMMV. I'm sure there are guys out there who can take a beer-can cock jackhammering with just spitlube at warp speed and live to tell without a single problem, but I ain't one of them and I don't personally know any either.

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What do you think about internet dating? Hopeless? Worth trying? If you are single, or were to become single, would internet dating be a viable option for you?

Personally I'd shy away from it if Dog forbid I were single again. I'm incredibly leery of even meeting people from the 'Net just as friends, let alone anything else. Too many bad experiences there. I know some people have had success with it, and all the best to them, but I've personally seen it destroy people's lives as well. *shrug* YMMV.

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What is your opinion on the BP oil spill? Should one company take the blame or is this something that the entire world should take the blame for?

BP for their shameless disregard for safety and good business practice, and every single inspector, government agent and safety inspector that let them get away with it.

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With all your life experience RIGHT NOW, what is the best piece of advice you would give a child? Do you think it'll change when you get older?

I face this question every day with our daughter, and every day it's a different answer.

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When was the last time you cried?

Doesn't happen much. Like.. full out bawling meltdown type thing? Damn near never.

Live shows though... those can be dangerous for that. U2 in 2005... I was on the rail and they played Bad, and I didn't even have fucking control of myself, just blew it right there with Bono standing there looking down at me while I'm wailing and singing at the same time.. eesh. Same thing happened at one of the AFI shows last fall. On The Arrow, first time I'd heard it live in a long time. GOD.

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Are you ticklish?

It's unwise to try and find out, I don't respond well to it.

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How often do you find yourself thinking about the past? Are they happy thoughts or negative ponderings?

I try to avoid dealing with the past much. Generally bad things come of it.

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Is there anything in your day to day life that you wish you could change? What is it?

That whole "not being able to walk without crutches" thing.. that whole chronic pain thing.. if that went away SO much would change it's not even funny.

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When was the last time you yelled at someone?

YELLED yelled? like in anger...not in a long time.. long enough that I can't remember. You have to SERIOUSLY get me pissed off for me to do that, it's generally not my style at all.

Yelling in fun? All the time, lol.

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Love, love, love Gangs of New York. Man I'm going to need to watch that again. Been meaning to ask you, what's that book series you love? You've told me before but I can't find it in the logs and I'm doing a book reading challenge.

There's a few but the big one is always going to be the many different pieces of the Valdemar story by M. Lackey.

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How about you, do you believe in the one?

Yeah, since I experienced it I kind of have to.

I don't know if it exists for everyone but it certainly did for me.

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Do you look for meaning in everything you see?

It depends on what's going on. Sometimes yes, sometimes ...stuff just happens.

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Do you find yourself attractive?

Bah, no.

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